Who are you when you’re not playing the role you’ve adopted over a lifetime?
You see, it’s like this:
Yes, you are YOU.
But as a result of what was encouraged, discouraged or denied (emotions, behaviours and who you were allowed to ‘be’), you morphed into the person you are now.
We all start out in life as playful, curious, resilient little tackers.
But somewhere along the way, most of us (and certainly everyone I’ve ever worked with) has lost that.
Why? Because a small child is desperate to feel like they belong; are loved and are good enough. It’s completely subconscious and it’s no fault of the people you grew up with – they were doing the same.
(If you missed it, you might like to check out my Who Were You At 2 blog).
If you resonate with being a people pleaser, you are frazzled, overwhelmed, disenchanted with life, stuck and to be honest, a little lost.
You feel caught up in the hamster wheel of life. Which leads to ‘doing’ a whole ton of stuff, and trying valiantly to keep everybody happy.
Talk about exhausting! (I nod knowingly, having done the people-pleasing thing for years!)
It also comes at a huge personal cost:
- Time for yourself is pretty much non-existent (and I’m not talking about a pampering sesh at the beauty salon; I’m talking about an early night and an uninterrupted cuppa!)
- Your self esteem has taken a beating even though you look so confident and get awesome results
- You tend to work with ‘everyone’, instead of your ‘dream’ clients. And you overdeliver and are regularly underpaid for either the service you provide, or the time. But most likely both.
- You don’t feel like you have choices about how you spend your time. Eg being 100% focused on your kids after school, or knocking off early to meet up with a girlfriend for a drink (even if you’re the boss)
- Finding the joy in life
- Being playful
- Showing your kids how to make decisions with your own best interests in mind
- Getting enough sleep, having time to eat well and being able to keep active (but not through scattered, hectic running around)
- And having a juicy love of life. Or a juicy love life, however you read that 😉
So how can you start to connect with the ‘inner child’ that you didn’t even know you had?
Well, you can check this article out for some good ideas of how to start to do this for yourself.
For a more personalised approach, book in for a free 45mins Clarity Session. This is a great opportunity to see if we’re a good match and to answer any questions. Jump on that if you’re keen to connect with the ‘real’ you and start to make decisions in your own best interests.
Kylie xTags: Human Behaviour Inner child people pleaser subconscious mind transformational coaching