It’s a fallacy that you should be able to ‘try harder’ to achieve success. And conversely, that if you’re not ‘successful’ (whatever that means to you), that you’re simply not trying hard enough. Have you ever done yoga? Struggling and striving to get into a posture; master your breathing;...
Mindset
How To Stop The Frustration of People Pleasing.
Being a people-pleaser (saying ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’) is all about what you’ve learnt – it’s not who you are. I mean, it’s not like being a dog-lover – that is never going to change, right?! And let’s be honest, who would even want it to?...
Do You Need To Have Experience The Opposite To Be Grateful For Something?
Gratitude: having a dishwasher? Is It Only Through Comparison With The Opposite That We Experience Gratitude? I’m sure it’s not just my kids that groan when they’re asked to unpack the dishwasher. I have been known to throw a ‘well, when I was your age we had to wash...
Cold Showers & How They Can Help You (while you stay warm & dry)
Well, I never thought I’d be quoting a 17 yo rapper but Capital Steez has a point: You really never are too old for baby steps, as I’ve been finding out recently with my cold shower escapades. 3 years ago, almost to the day, I started taking cold showers...
Connection is Queen.
It has never been clearer that connection is crucial to our wellbeing and happiness. Maybe you’ve noticed this – probably via a feeling of being more disconnected right now. Maybe you can’t see your family or your friends. Maybe you miss your team and the banter that happens when you’re all in...
The Hand Brake Effect
Years ago when I was a pretty inexperienced driver, I was heading downhill towards a roundabout with a Mercedes slowing to a halt in front of me, and my brakes failed. There I was, applying the brakes in my Laser hatchback with the Merc getting closer and closer, but...